tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8097339734335684643.post8929142795954473138..comments2023-09-30T06:15:05.336-06:00Comments on "Cher-ing" my thoughts....: True beauty...chercardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13314841357351024070noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8097339734335684643.post-17016511631949257942011-11-03T04:43:55.478-06:002011-11-03T04:43:55.478-06:00It's the parents that make those choices for t...It's the parents that make those choices for these kids really...I think it all comes down to that. It's not easy-there are many influences and it's a battle sometimes-but I think it's the parents responsibility. I saw some Homecoming dresses this year that turned my stomach..honestly, they were tiny pieces of lycra from 2" below the butt slipping down strapless, with holes in the midriff. Where are the father who let their daughters walk out of the house like that??? I remember wearing a mini skirt that was too short (not short by today's standards!) and being sent straight back upstairs by my father...and it was humiliating and I never tried it again. It makes me sad that parents think this is all ok...it makes me sad for those girls. I love your post, I love that someone else gets as frustrated as I do over this subject, I love that quote!Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14912466557223829314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8097339734335684643.post-65962153299619003452011-11-01T15:49:17.251-06:002011-11-01T15:49:17.251-06:00I really like that first paragraph. We make sure ...I really like that first paragraph. We make sure our daughter wears modest clothes and try to compliment her on the good things she does as well as on her appearance.Wendihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05182455822784592676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8097339734335684643.post-59412314203698020782011-11-01T14:12:56.553-06:002011-11-01T14:12:56.553-06:00I have seen Jersey Shore, and it is seriously dist...I have seen Jersey Shore, and it is seriously disturbing that a 4th grader has also! So far I have been very lucky that my 11 year old shows no interest in dressing like "Snooki". She has some seriously great friends with dress as she does, along with really wonderful activity days leaders that teach the girls about dressing modestly. I also make all sorts of efforts to never criticize or draw attention to my looks. I want my kids to grow up thinking they are perfect exactly as they are. We will see what the teenage years bring!Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07441687906238592242noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8097339734335684643.post-58169587011357295002011-11-01T11:51:19.324-06:002011-11-01T11:51:19.324-06:00It is very difficult, because we need to teach our...It is very difficult, because we need to teach our daughters how to dress, and how to act and what is polite and what is correct and what is good, at the same time, the WORLD is teaching them (in most cases) that the opposite of what we teach is correct. The world teaches the less clothes you wear the BETTER you look and the more attention you will get and how cute you are! We teach our children to wear appropriate clothing and to dress and ACT modestly - it is a very slippery slope, but we MUST do it, because if WE dont teach our children, SOMEONE will. IN my family we do not BUY the type of clothing that shows our parts, and if someone gives it to us, it is returned, or donated. We have done this since she was born, so now she knows how to chose clothes, and those that are worldly clothes, she knows she can wear a shirt under it, or for the bottoms she can wear some stretchy pants - it is alot of work, and i know it will get harder as she gets older. We just have to keep trying and keep teaching and be the example - dont wear something you wouldnt want your child to wear.Andrea D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/15448125423459272489noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8097339734335684643.post-76349667740127909692011-11-01T10:19:06.503-06:002011-11-01T10:19:06.503-06:00I think that helping them feel beautiful is awesom...I think that helping them feel beautiful is awesome and letting them know that true beauty comes from inside, the damage comes when they are being made to feel like they have to be sexy and that their self worth depends on their looks and body.chercardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13314841357351024070noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8097339734335684643.post-85277643751388674112011-11-01T10:15:31.490-06:002011-11-01T10:15:31.490-06:00A tricky line to walk, that's for sure! You w...A tricky line to walk, that's for sure! You want to make your daughter feel like she is beautiful without having her feel that her whole worth is dependent on her looks. I've always complimented my daughter when she looks nice, or cute, but I lavish her in praise when she succeeds in school, or does an act of kindness for someone else, or completes a goal in Personal Progress. Daughters take their cues from Mom. If Mom dresses suggestively, you bet Daughter will too. If Mom includes Daughter in the good works she does, then her focus will turn from herself and outward appearances, to others and serving them. It doesn't happen overnight, but little by little.Venessahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14371450177297502874noreply@blogger.com