Sarah who writes the blog Clover Lane had this to say about our daughters and how their childhood is being cut short. I say Amen and Amen! Go read and comment back here on what you think.
Great blog post. I am blessed to have a daughter that is interested in the real things that matter. Not hair, or nail polish or clothes. She is kind, likes to play games with the family, and will hide her eyes if a commercial is inappropriate. She is smart and talented in many ways. She has a great sense of humor but she's not giggly. She's different from a lot of her peers. Starting in 4th grade, recess became boring because her friends all wanted to walk around and talk and she wanted to play four square, or tetherball, or basketball. She doesn't want to go to the mall because she thinks it's boring to shop. She's not a tomboy, she's very feminine, but she's not interested in all the fluff that most girls her age are. I admit, that sometimes I'm concerned that she's not your typical teenager. But a friend of mine reminds me that that is a good thing. Other mother's tell me about the drama in their daughter's life and I feel so grateful that C is happy and self confident. I just wish more girls her age felt that it was okay NOT to wear 4 inch heels, makeup, or tight tshirts.
There was a comment on that post that blew my mind. Saying how we need to let them grow up in their time and not ours and how each group of parents thought that it was worse than theirs. To me that is obvious proof that it has gotten worse and worse. I worry everyday about my girls, my husband has already gotten a gray hair at 28! what are we going to do with role models like Lindsay Lohan or Paris Hilton? I stress over not wanting my daughter around certain people yet being afraid to offend. What do you do to keep out all of these bad influences?
You teach them about better role models like their ancestors, women in history/church history like Joan of Arc and Emma Smith, you point out the people today who are making good choices and overcoming great odds in spite of everything else. We have to be MORE diligent and deliberate than our mothers did in teaching our daughters and sons, since this filth will affect how they look at women. We have to BE the example for them to look at.
Danielle....I'm pretty sure your daughter didn't just turn out like that. I'm pretty sure her amazing Mom and Dad taught her what is really important!
I too say "Amen!" This is one reason why I am soooo grateful to have the gospel! The standards are not only set for us, and set high, but there is a reason that backs up every standard and principle. It's not just "because I say so". I have really been feeling this way too lately (maybe because I'm reading Anne of Green Gables) but just really wanting that innocent childhood for my kids. And they're not even in school yet! I enjoyed reading this post and am grateful that there are parents out there that are not willing to get sucked into the "world". I too dream of a revolution, a revolution of morals :) But I'll tell you what, the young women in our ward continually impress me with how strong and brave they are. They refuse to compromise their standards and they are beautiful, confident, and happy! They have been taught well by their parents. It really gives me hope for my kids.
@Kerrie -- ISN'T THAT SCARY?! I always get weird looks when I tell people that somebody is going to try to brainwash my kiddies, so I sure as heck plan to be the one to do it first :)
When I found out I was having a girl, I literally was sick with worry - how could I teach her to stand strong in the face of the onslaught of the world? As I've begun to read blogs lately, I'm gaining such hope -- there are so many of you incredible women (in and out of the Church who also want to be defenders of virtue.
p.s. I'm a total fan of Clover Lane and loved this post - she is an amazing lady (and I've gained such courage in the blogging world when I found out she started with ZERO computer knowledge). Thanks so much for pointing it out to your readers!
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Great blog post. I am blessed to have a daughter that is interested in the real things that matter. Not hair, or nail polish or clothes. She is kind, likes to play games with the family, and will hide her eyes if a commercial is inappropriate. She is smart and talented in many ways. She has a great sense of humor but she's not giggly. She's different from a lot of her peers. Starting in 4th grade, recess became boring because her friends all wanted to walk around and talk and she wanted to play four square, or tetherball, or basketball. She doesn't want to go to the mall because she thinks it's boring to shop. She's not a tomboy, she's very feminine, but she's not interested in all the fluff that most girls her age are. I admit, that sometimes I'm concerned that she's not your typical teenager. But a friend of mine reminds me that that is a good thing. Other mother's tell me about the drama in their daughter's life and I feel so grateful that C is happy and self confident. I just wish more girls her age felt that it was okay NOT to wear 4 inch heels, makeup, or tight tshirts.
There was a comment on that post that blew my mind. Saying how we need to let them grow up in their time and not ours and how each group of parents thought that it was worse than theirs. To me that is obvious proof that it has gotten worse and worse. I worry everyday about my girls, my husband has already gotten a gray hair at 28! what are we going to do with role models like Lindsay Lohan or Paris Hilton? I stress over not wanting my daughter around certain people yet being afraid to offend. What do you do to keep out all of these bad influences?
You teach them about better role models like their ancestors, women in history/church history like Joan of Arc and Emma Smith, you point out the people today who are making good choices and overcoming great odds in spite of everything else. We have to be MORE diligent and deliberate than our mothers did in teaching our daughters and sons, since this filth will affect how they look at women. We have to BE the example for them to look at.
Danielle....I'm pretty sure your daughter didn't just turn out like that. I'm pretty sure her amazing Mom and Dad taught her what is really important!
I too say "Amen!" This is one reason why I am soooo grateful to have the gospel! The standards are not only set for us, and set high, but there is a reason that backs up every standard and principle. It's not just "because I say so". I have really been feeling this way too lately (maybe because I'm reading Anne of Green Gables) but just really wanting that innocent childhood for my kids. And they're not even in school yet! I enjoyed reading this post and am grateful that there are parents out there that are not willing to get sucked into the "world". I too dream of a revolution, a revolution of morals :) But I'll tell you what, the young women in our ward continually impress me with how strong and brave they are. They refuse to compromise their standards and they are beautiful, confident, and happy! They have been taught well by their parents. It really gives me hope for my kids.
Sarah who wrote that post isn't LDS and yet has amazing values and standards! She is so "pro motherhood" and is an amazing woman!
I like to think her dad and I have something to do with it...but I think it's a small part. I actually think she helps me be a better person!
@Kerrie -- ISN'T THAT SCARY?! I always get weird looks when I tell people that somebody is going to try to brainwash my kiddies, so I sure as heck plan to be the one to do it first :)
When I found out I was having a girl, I literally was sick with worry - how could I teach her to stand strong in the face of the onslaught of the world? As I've begun to read blogs lately, I'm gaining such hope -- there are so many of you incredible women (in and out of the Church who also want to be defenders of virtue.
p.s. I'm a total fan of Clover Lane and loved this post - she is an amazing lady (and I've gained such courage in the blogging world when I found out she started with ZERO computer knowledge). Thanks so much for pointing it out to your readers!
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