I've had two experiences lately where people have been SHOCKED at the number of children I have. I mean seriously I have FIVE...I'm not Michelle Duggar for heaven sakes!
Yesterday at the park there was a woman there with her dog. Her dog ran over to my kids (and scared my daughter to death) and she came over. I had 4 of my kids with me, she looked at all of them, looked at me and asked, "Are they ALL yours?" I told her they certainly were and her jaw dropped (I am sorry but four just isn't that many). She asked if some were adopted (what?) and I assured her I birthed all of them and told her I had one more at home. Again, the jaw dropped.
She said, "And you're still smiling?" I told her they are my greatest joy and make me happy. She said, "There must be drugs and alcohol involved." I assured her there was none of that. I finally realized why she was so incredulous....she had no children of her own and never intended to have any. She couldn't possibly understand the true and lasting JOY they bring! She did say (I guess she had to find a reason why I would have so many) that God must be on my side...I wholeheartedly agreed with her.
And then today at Costco I took four children (one was a friend) with me. They were quite well behaved actually, but still being kids and I got some smiles along the way. As we got to the receipt checker at the exit he looked at the kids, counted them and raised his eyebrows at me. I said, "Oh I have two more that are in school." He said (quite condescendingly with his arm on my shoulder), "Now Mom, isn't 6 enough? (never told him they weren't all mine). FINALLY I thought quickly on my feet and said, "Nope...working on 6 more." and smiled at him and walked away.
Since when did it become complete strangers business to comment on how many children people have? I take care of my children, I feed them, clothe them, love them, and provide a loving stable home life for them. No matter if I had 1 or 12, it is nobody's business!
I will proudly proclaim that I have FIVE children and it was a very conscious decision! Iam grateful for each one of them and consider them blessings not burdens. I love my crazy,messy and chaotic home and can't imagine life any other way!